Going Through The Opening

October 30, 2006

Contracting Before Expanding

Sometimes our lives contract before they expand. We may be working hard on ourselves spiritually, doing good in the world, following our dreams, and wondering why we are still facing constrictions of all kinds-financial, emotional, physical. Perhaps we even feel as if we've lost our spirituality and are stuck in a dark room with no windows. We may be confused and discouraged by what appears to be a lack of progress. But sometimes this is the way things work. Like a caterpillar that confines itself to a tiny cocoon before it grows wings and flies, we are experiencing the darkness before the dawn.

When things feel tight, it's easy to panic or want to act in some way to ease the feeling of constriction. We might also spin our wheels mentally, trying to understand why things are the way they are. However, there is nothing we need to do at this time other than to be patient and persevering. We can cling to the awareness that we are processing the shift from one stage to another, and the more we surrender to the experience, the more quickly we will move through the tightness into the opening on the other side. Just like a baby making its way down the birth canal, we may feel squeezed and pushed and very uncomfortable, but if we remember that we are on our way to being born into a new reality, we will find the strength to carry on.

Even as we endure the contractions, we can find peace within ourselves if we remember to trust the universe. We can look to the natural world for inspiration as we see that all beings surrender to the process of being born. In that surrender, and in the center of our own hearts, is a willingness to trust in the unknown as we make our way through the opening.


Time to update has been slim these days. The birthday weekend was a wonderful one. Granted, I know she won't remember it, thankfully we have beautiful pictures, gifts and arts and crafts goodies from the kiddies as evidence of the great time our darling had. She ended up pushing buttons though. She's developed this new habit of smacking me in the face when she's not getting her way. I think she finally got the hint last night when I made her go to bed early after a little smack on her bottom and a pinch on the cheek. Anyone looking at my face will see her nails have left their imprints. Last night was just the last straw. Luckily, her grandpa agreed with my disciplining and I felt less guilty about it. Tantrums are more common now, and I'm sorry, I can't abide by the...just give it to them philosophy at babycenter.com unless its dangerous. Umm, she needs to know when Mommy or Daddy or any grown person says no, NO is NO. Sorry...I ain't raising no rude child.

I'm contemplating PayPerPost after reading and Advertising Age article this morning. hmmmm....we shall see.


  1. this is an especially beautiful post of yours. i've been going through a similar state, except it's a "constriction" i've intentionally forced upon myself. being a better brother, a better friend. calling people back when i'm too tired. choosing bananas instead of the fries i really want. getting my finances in order and doing my very best to keep them that way. it's exhausting, really...all this responsibility. but i know that little by little, you start to change. and that, with a little endurance, you can truly change yourself for the better. but *sigh* it's so hard for those ruled by pull of the inconstant, capricious moon...


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